Have you ever reached that point in your life where you feel like you're just entertaining someone just because? Your friends hang out with, so you feel like you should be doing the same. Pretending everything is all fine and dandy every time you're around them meanwhile they're getting under your skin because you know who they really are. Yet they've done absolutely nothing to your liking? This is the beginning of a toxic relationship.
How do we spot this? it's easier than you think.
- They aren't supporting you and your decisions in life.
- They're constantly arguing everything you have to say.
- Consistently tries to one up you.
- They make you feel bad about the things you love and enjoy.
- They're always negative when you speak your opinion or my favorite, give a counter opinion making you feel or look stupid.
All of this is starting to stick out to you, right? That's what I figured. I've been here, we've all been here. Some of us are just in denial and some of us don't know how to go about it. Some people just aren't meant to remain in your life forever. Some are simply passing through to teach you a lesson. That's totally okay. It's just up to us to figure out what that lesson is. Say thank you, and we move on.
How DO you actually go about breaking off something like this? Easy. Speak up and speak the truth. People like this you can't expect them to understand but if they are in somewhat of a decent headspace, they'll respect what you say and leave you alone so you both can move on. It's not your job to justify why you're doing this. No one needs an explanation on why you just don't vibe with their energy anymore. You're just growing and learning and planning out a life of success and fulfillment and that person doesn't fit the cut anymore. It's time to move on.
Take a look at how you want this successful life to be. Who will be there and who is just taking up space. Start by surrounding yourself with a group of friends or family or even both that support you to the fullest. When you're in your growth mindset, you'll see who's the burden and who's moving on up with you. You might tell yourself otherwise, but you see it. These people tend to be the negative energy we were warned about at the start of our journey to higher performance.
There just comes a point in our lives where we know exactly what we want and we know how to build a healthy support system to achieve it. You know it, and I know it. Most of us are in a comfort zone which I get, but you can't grow sitting comfortably. Especially with people who aren't doing anything to grow either. It's impossible. Trust me when I say to implement these actions now, so you can allow the ones who DO love and support you to have more time with you so you all can thrive together.
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