We get in bed for the night, take out our phones, and scroll until we pass out.
What's on our feeds?
That perfectly proportioned girl sipping her mimosa over looking those intricately placed snow cap mountains. Her caption is "Mornings like this. #livingmybestlife" we like the picture, become envious, and keep scrolling.
You know what I mean, I won't continue on.
Women have the most pressure on social media. We are apparently supposed to meet insanely unrealistic expectations to be accepted into the world. It makes me so mad most days because I see so many good hearted women fall victims to the mainstream social media "influencer life". It's such a fake vision it's ridiculous. Half of those girls are paid to say those things. It's the same with the girls at the gym. We compare our progress to her success. We all have to understand that we grow differently. Each one of us operates differently. That's what makes all of this amazing. How different our progress is that we can learn from one another. It might even benefit us down the road.
Here's the tea. Before anyone attacks me MOST of it is fake. There are plenty of real accomplishments on our socials. We've read their stories. We've seen it on the daily. How do we overcome this comparison syndrome? What do we have to do to grow passed this? Listen to me on this babes, it does not take much I promise.
Start by changing how you think of yourself. We go down this deep dark hole of comparison and guilt it makes us feel gross. No more of that. Today, we acknowledge ourselves as who we are. Tomorrow, we make the moves to apply our new thoughts into action. The day after that we're in love with ourselves living our best lives.
Now change the words you tell yourself. Instead of telling yourself you can't do this tell yourself, I want to do this. Whatever it takes for you to push pass the awful comparison mindset, I want you to do it. Our minds are operating off of what it's known by the information we are feeding to it. It's our job to train it to believe otherwise. No one else is going to make this happen but you.
If you need to know if I've done exercises like this, yes I have. It's not easy. It takes discipline to change your brain's way of thinking. It's hard work. You become very doubtful at first. Almost like a lie to yourself. It takes time and patience because you're always going to have you subconscious mind trying to take over. That ends today.
I'm going to leave this here to say each and every one of you are absolutely beautiful and thriving in your own way. Do not ever feel the need to compare yourself to someone else because you alone, are the rarest of gems. You bring uniqueness to the table and I hope you get to see that one day. You have a fire burning in your soul that's ready to ignite and show the world what you're capable of.
I seriously cannot wait to hear about your journey and how you overcame these limiting beliefs. You're full of this greatness. I'm reminding you of that today.
Comments